Troubled marriage, communication issues, long fights that go nowhere, coldness, loss of warmth and love for each other.
No matter how try to figure out what has been going on, you and your partner aren’t getting any closer to solving your problems than when you broke the tension and started saying to each other “I’m not happy. I want this to work better.”
Relationships are not easy, and many of us, despite our best efforts, don’t know what we are doing. Nobody ever taught you how to have a great relationship.