Pornography Addiction
Why do I keep doing this?
It doesn’t even feel good anymore.
It’s a true love/hate relationship. It’s all you can think about and the biggest change you want to make in your life – compulsive pornography use.
Your spouse is hurt and angry – it feels like this is competition.
Work is suffering. You may even be taking big risks with your job to use porn at work.
It’s hard to feel anything other than anger or nothing.
People aren’t people anymore – they become actors in the sexual scenarios you spend so much time watching and thinking about.
The hairs on the back of your neck stand up any time your spouse or partner asks you a question because you are sure they have discovered your secret… again.
Pornography is an effective short-term solution to feeling bad. You keep using it because you know it is effective at making you feel something else.
Short-term solutions are costing you long-term happiness.
Many of the people I work with on pornography addiction issues are sick of the bingeing and purging.
They’re tired of making themselves the same promises over and over, only to break them.
A compulsive relationship with pornography happens for a lot of reasons.
Sometimes it’s the only way a person feels safe being close to another. Other times, it’s the only vessel for the intense anger and loss that an individual has accumulated over a life time.
For many, it’s the only effective and reliable way they’ve found to consistently soothe their anxiety and to make uncomfortable feelings stand at bay.
All of this would be fine if these short-term fixes weren’t making your partner feel replaced or pushing you to take greater and greater risks in pursuit of feeling something better or that acting out at work puts your very livelihood at stake.
How do I even start?
You’re in the right place if you’re feeling ready to break-up with pornography.
We’ll start by getting to know you, all about you, so that it’s easier to understand exactly what you’re using pornography for.
Together, we’ll find ways to take care of yourself that don’t include betraying your partner or living outside of your values.
There isn’t some magic list of things to replace your pornography habit.
You and I will explore and experiment together what might work for you.
It won’t be long before you’re feeling more hope and freedom than you’ve had in a long time.
You’ll know why you used porn to cope. You’ll know what kind of life you need to build around yourself to live in your integrity and without ever having to worry about getting caught again – and you will love living it.
The first step is to talk.
There’s no need to wait any longer to step into freedom from pornography addiction.